God has placed motherless daughters on my heart today. Why, I cannot say. But what I know is that women of all ages have just come through the most stressful world events of multiple holidays and/or terrible weather, and many without the love and support of their mother. 

If you are here for the first time, welcome. Pour yourself a drink. Relax. God’s got it.

This article is for ALL of the motherless daughters in the world. Some mothers are lost in addiction and their adult children are struggling to find their way in the world. Others have lost their mothers to death; suddenly or painfully drawn out. Others have mothers walking this planet thinking nothing of them, and thus, emotionally and physically absent from a developing woman’s heart and mind. Some mothers wander this world, wondering what has happened to their child they left behind in hopes that their future would be brighter without them. No matter the reason you are motherless today. Know this – You are loved- unequivocally, no conditions, no exceptions. Justly and purely loved.

For whatever the reason you are reading this, you may be feeling there is a void-missing pieces of your life. Hope Edelman, author of Motherless Daughters, and creator of Motherless Daughters Ministry, once said this when she lost her mother “Someone did us all a grave injustice by implying that mourning has a distinct beginning, middle and end.” In her motherless daughters community call, women share of the loss of their mother and she shares of the death of her mother. She has been featured in the Huffington Post and Washington Post discussing the subjects of early mother loss. Ms. Edelman hosts a four-day gathering of motherless daughters, and has occasional retreats and a flagship three-night event for motherless daughters of all ages.

The only other person who can love you better than a mama, is our Heavenly Father, who sent his son Jesus to teach us how we are loved and how to love others; and then he was sent to die as a living sacrifice for our sins. Keep in mind, Jesus too, did this out of a love for you. (John 17). You are a daddy’s little girl whether you recognize it or not. God is so pleased with you. the Bible is a life-affirming book, and I encourage you to read it daily.

John 15:12: “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.”

If you are a mother of young children – I want to reassure you – you are capable of loving your own daughter, sons and spouse, well. There is nothing like a mother’s love to her children. I encourage you to find strong, ethical, moral women a few years older than you to mentor you as you grow as a mother. These women understand the emotional intensity parenting young women struggle with. Many of you have at least one best friend to support you in this manner, but having the one or two seasoned women to go to, in times of hardship, are a Godsend. They share mortal and spiritual lessons on how to navigate our children.

I also encourage you to seek parenting classes if you are in a stage of development with your children that you have no concept of what to do. A lot of people take classes simply for the benefit of learning better ways than their own parent did. Parenting comes with major challenges and more you know, the more resilient you become and the stronger your family will be.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

I recommend parenting classes even before you become a parent. Please, be careful my sweet sister on who you choose to make a child with. The man with the excuse for everything, who always lets you down, who lies and cheats…he’s not ready. Walk away, no matter how hard. If you’ve been wondering whether or not to leave someone, go ahead and take this as confirmation. If you need resources, leave me a comment or subscribe and email me, I will help you find them in your area.

A woman’s life is not easy, and that shower cry is good for your soul. Hope Edelman focuses mainly on the death of her mother and shares that grief knows no boundary. And at times we can grief not only the loss of our mother, but any loved one.

Grief can occur whether a death has occurred or not. Relationships end, and grieving them is normal and healthy. If you are dealing with the loss of your mother today, your grief responses are normal. Your personal experience is yours.

Surviving parents have shared experiences of grief and loss. A mother’s death takes its toll on everyone in the family differently. The parents who may be left behind, never expected to lose a child. Many children deny their mother’s mortality and denial takes over. Please seek out support groups in your area in order to grieve in a healthy manner. Seek a group of like-minded women to hold you accountable and encourage you.

Proverbs 31:26: “She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.”

I promise to do my best to provide the nurturing prayer of a mother to each of you. I hope and pray these words encourage you.

If you are in a time of loss, keep your life real simple for now. Self care is critical to you at this time. Get some vitamin C and D and drink warm liquids. Limit your alcohol. Yes…limit it. The more you drink, the less you are able to cope. Trust me on this one.

Proverbs 31:25: “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.”

My friend, I want to leave you with these final words today…

You are beautiful.

You ARE enough.

You are worthy of self respect and respect for others.

You are smart.

You are kind.

You are precious.

You are unbelievably treasured beyond measure by your creator, our Heavenly Father.

You were created to rock the world with your brilliance.

You shine so bright when you smile, even through your tears.

When you cry alone, you are not truly alone. Jesus sits besides you and wipes your tears. Each tear is counted in heaven and placed in a jar.

He will turn your mourning into dancing.

Your crown of hair is so important, God knows the numbers of hairs on your head. You are valued for being uniquely you. 

You are accepted. 

Until next time…In Jesus Name…Court